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Initiating separation was a life changing event in my life. I wasn’t fully aware of the consequences but deep inside I knew it was necessary.It was necessary for me to live in my own house as the arguments about being tidy was too much to handle. He wasn’t happy too. After an argument he moved his desk in to the bedroom. ? Great!  So the whole study room was mine. Was I happy ? No, not all. But we had come to a stage where everything and anything was too much.

He was still positive me moving in to my new house. He even did all the painting and the floor without charging me. He is a nice person in heart it is just us together not working. Finally I was in my new house. Strange feelings! Wow!  I bought a bed I always wanted to have, mahogany with bed head. I was alone in it !! You really need to be careful what you wish for.

He visited me for drinks, for meals. Even we celebrated his birthday together just on the meal. He seemed he was hoping to move in. But I had to wait 2 years  to see what he really planned. In the UK, if you live separate for 2 years, at the end of the 2 year period, divorce doesnt take long. What happened was, I was abroad, we did chat over the phone all the way back to UK. I got out of the taxi in front of my house. Phone rang  and it was him again Asking for a divorce!  Not expected ! Of course I cried. However I agreed with him too. I didnt see any reverse in our togetherness.

I must say it took a while to overcome those emotions. One morning I woke up with a stiff neck. You think the cause of having stiff neck most likely not sleeping in the right position. Wrong! Very wrong! But I didn’t know that then. So I waited till I recover from it. It never happened, in fact it got worse. My friends advised me to see a chiropractor. I did. First one I went to see really not so good. I made further investigation. Finally I found one who was really professional. I made an appointment straight away. He took my next “x ray” – It is not. The diagram shows  where the energy has built up. The treatment doesn’t take more than 5 mins. Yes, it does work but  the energy builds up again. The pain comes back. 1 and half year I had the same treatment. I had to go back every month till I met my Emotional Freedom Technique teachers Robert Waghmare and Joanne Ross.

I was taken to their free talk events by one of my friends. 2 hrs talk was very interesting but it took a while to sink in. I experienced this “ sink in “ period with people who I met so far. How does it work? How can Tapping can resolve emotional and physical issues? EFT  also called “ physiological acupuncture “. People find the words they already know more acceptable. Acupuncture treatment is not questioned as the way EFT is questioned. But in fact  both are based on the same principle. One is done with needle, EFT is needlessness. This form of acupuncture uses the fingertips to stimulate energy points on the body,

Well, 8 months after I attended the free talk,  I decided to attend their practitioner course.  It was one of the best decisions I have ever made for myself and so for the others. Robert explained to me on day 1 my pain will be gone by the end of 3 days course. I wasn’t quite sure how it could happen but deep inside I was hoping that would come true. Obviously I didn’t have much understanding of how EFT works then.  Having stick neck more than 2 years is not fun. Some of you may be experiencing it at the moment. In that case you know what I mean.

Yes, at the end of the 3rd day I had question and answer session with him for 5 mins. At the end of the 5 ins my pain was gone. Do you know the reason? The reason of having stiff neck was my anger, my lack of ability to express my self, forgiving myself and him, to become I am. Here I was, shining like a star, happy, joyful and thankful for my emotional freedom. It brought a great relief, painless days and a new skill in to my life.

Divorce took place in a few months after I spoke to hi. Now I am so used to my new life.  I do tapping everyday since I became practitioner. I helped so many people with this technique. I learnt to become friend with my mind and my emotions. I don’t give so much attention to what other people think about me. What I think and what I feel is more important.